It's a week after Christmas and the kids are all happy with their presents especially my 10 year old daughter who we gave a phone to. After many months of pestering but in the back of my mind there is still that thought of "was it the right time?" Or should we have waited until the age we had first decided with? Which would have been when she started secondary school in a year and a half.
Why did we decide to do it early?
After talking to a few of the school mums and hearing that not only their children already have one but a quarter of year 4's have them, half of year 5 and if you don't have one by year 6 you would be considered the odd one out.
The last thing you want to hear is your child being the odd one out! You want them to fit in & be accepted.
Is this what technology had done to us?
I remember getting my first phone it was a Motorola, it was black very big and had a aerial but I didn't care I had a phone I was like the rest of my friends. I was about 13, and the content was nothing like it was today, it was in black and white for starters you had to press the button 1, 2 or 3 times for which letter you wanted, to send a text, which were 10p each so you had to be careful with only £5 credit. There was no social media and the Internet was very limited there were only certain sites you could go on unlike today where there is over 1 billion websites at your finger tips.
This has to be one of the things that scares me the most. People contacting her that shouldn't. Although she is not allowed out of the house without a adult it's still a massive fear, someone messaging her something inappropriate or someone pretending they are someone they are not.
So we have set down some rules,
1. If a number contacts her that she doesn't have saved in her phone she should come and show me or her dad.
2. No taking the phone to bed.
3. No social media, we have allowed snap chat but like the phone numbers only people we know.
I would like to think we are being safe but fair, it's a big decision to make as a parent isn't it?
I would love to know your views on this, am I being too soft or too harsh?